Our "Nobody Will Say Anything About It" Passive-Aggressive Battle

I don't know if Tyler realizes it or not...but we are in the midst of a battle.  To better explain the situation I've included an episode description and a link to a clip from "Everybody Loves Raymond."

Ray and Debra wind up in a two-week standoff over a suitcase. When Robert asks Ray if he can borrow a suitcase sitting on the stairway landing for his honeymoon, Ray explains he and Debra have been locked in an "unspoken" battle of wills since a weekend trip over who is responsible for putting the suitcase away. Although Robert thinks Ray and Debra are insane, Frank and Marie can easily relate and offer their own words of wisdom...with Frank counseling Ray and Marie advising Debra on how to resolve their marital differences.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wpCr_IkZ7-4&feature=related

Our situation is not exactly like theirs, but that's what it reminds me of.  So here is our situation...

 

                                  my way                                  his way

          

There is a pillow on our couch that has a decorative "button" on it.  Whenever I put the pillow on the couch, I make sure the button is in one of the top corners of the pillow.  Whenever Tyler puts the pillow on the couch, he makes sure the button is in one of the lower corners.  Neither of us has said anything to the other about this phenomenon, we just arrange the pillow how we like and move on.  I always know if Tyler has been on the couch, because the pillow button is in the bottom corner.  While this doesn't bother me (I just end up fixing the pillow) I sometimes wonder if he knows this is going on.  I wonder if he is trying to see how long it will be until one of us cracks and brings up the "pillow arrangement" to the other. 

Maybe I will start a tally and see how many times I change it in a week.  Maybe I'll turn the pillow sideways and see if he notices that, or if he just changes it back to "his" way.  Everytime I change the orientation of the pillow (especially if Tyler is in the room but has his back to me) I find myself imagining our own little live audience laughing out loud as I change it, and then laughing again, when he flips it back.  I'll make sure to keep everyone (because I know everyone is interested) up to date about our little unspoken battle of the pillow. 

Stay tuned for updates about Thanksgiving break!